Love your children

The only job you have as a parent is to love your children.

On Facebook I have been seeing stupid posters that people have liked and shared, that advocate smacking children as well as never given in to the demands of children. I believe that this is just disgusting.These parenting tips are brought to people under the guise of a religious thoughts. I suppose that these poor people have taken to religion so I suppose they have forgotten how to think for themselves or they are so badly scarred from their own traumatic upbringing that they want to perpetrate the horror.

As far as I am concerned, the only reason that children are smacked is that children are really annoying and beating them relieves some of the stress. It is disgusting to raise your hand to a child. It is not you winning as a parent but rather you failing as a human being. I think that adults who smack children are the basest bullies that walk this earth.

The other parenting tip is that you must never give in to your child’s wants. Yes it is embarrassing having a child throw a tantrum in a shop, but, how on earth could it have got that far if you were being an engaged parent and actually listening to what your child wants. I have found that if a child wants something and the item is out of your reach as a human, then a quiet conversation with your child will normally allay any tantrum and allow your child to realize that you are not just being a dick-head in not getting them what they want.

I think the saddest story that I was told about my childhood is that I only threw one tantrum in my life. I threw the wobbly and was beaten by my mother (this being the same person who fed ants as all creatures were glorious). Well as the story goes the next time I wanted to have a hissy, I threw myself down and then jumped up and shut up when I saw her. I could cry for the child that I was. How horrid to not be able to express the sheer frustration of not being able to communicate. I then didn't get to talk for quite a few years after that as my older sister did all of the talking for me.

Luckily I have got over that now and can throw the most glorious tantrums if I don’t think that I am being heard.

I think it is amazing when you are able to give a child what they want. Think of the evolution of the mind of the child, as the item given will stimulate thoughts that we as adults can never even imagine. Each generation is supposed to have a higher IQ than the previous one and the only way that is possible is to give them what they need. Parents are parents because they decided to have children and this must be the highest priority in their lives.

I think the highest honor and privilege that I have been given in my life is to be a mother. I have the most amazingly creative children in the world and this was not beaten into them.  

Namaste' glorious ones!