To dream a dream

Somebody on Facebook posted a silly motivational you tube that described how to follow your dreams and don't worry about silly things like money or practicality. Well I did the typical over-reaction with my poor heart feeling as though a giant cold hand had gripped it and my brain was being seared by heat passion. Tears sprung to my eyes and I commented that I was glad that the particular philosopher was no longer walking the earth. I had been offended by this particular speech before so I had done some reading up on him.

Once I calmed down and thought about where these feeling were coming from I realised it was not the actual following of dreams that making me in to a loony, but rather how throughout my considerable life I have seen people do the most heinous of things in the name of dreams. In fact from observation I have seen that decency is the victim of dreams.

I firstly thought it was only my parents’ generation that were low morale individuals and that was proved false when I had lived long enough for my generation get to the same age and have selfishness kick in. What I have seen that has repeatedly hurt my poor heart is cheating and abandonment done in the name of dreams. I have seen people who have celebrated many years of marriage and observed them cheating behind their partners backs and then in public accept the accolades of being such a marvellous person due to having been married for so long.

The people involved always state that they only have one life to live. Well yes you do, but why do you have to behave like such a selfish dick in it. The observations that I have made have been done by both men and women so no moral superiority can be drawn.

Living this one life of ours and getting up and following our dreams sounds like something that is what we all should do, after all Oprah made billions peddling these ideas. The thing is as we live we gather these things called responsibilities often in the form of children. What I have observed is that it always seems to be the children who pay for the pursuit of happiness by those who bore them.

I am revolted by the behaviour that makes stupid people think that they can just flit away and no longer care for those that give them unconditional love. I have seen that parents don't actually follow through with that unconditional love thing but rather do it until a shinier path appears.

I understand that often things do not work out, well then do something about it without cheating. It does not matter what your religious views are, the fundamental issue of getting married is that you will be loyal; and that is it. All the other things are basically propping up the fact that you will try your damnedest to be loyal to the person you got dressed up nicely with. So where in being loyal do you fit in being involved with someone else? It is just Rude!

I think having a dream is a lovely thing and pursuing it is a great way to spend your free time. A truly gifted person in an area may be able to use it to generate an income, and that would be an amazing thing. The question at that point is would it still be a dream or would the reality of having to use it to generated an income, destroy the lustre and sparkly bits that made it a dream in the first place.

I liked the doctors’ pledge of “first do no harm” until I was sorely disappointed when I read various versions of the Hippocrates’ oath and those words did not appear in any of them. I think the world has confused science with science fiction so I think we should then live up to Asimov’s first law of Robotics which states “A robot may not injure a human being or, through inaction, allow a human being to

come to harm”. So now instead of just doctors and robots imagine if all of us humans could firstly do no harm and then secondly not allow human being to come to harm.  I feel this is a statement about both the mental and physical portions of the people who are our orbit.

And with that I know of at least half a dozen people who would have been offended by these words. My mission is on course. Stupid offended people! I know of course a whole lot of other people who on reading this will feel that they are the exception as they are truly important and really needed to do whatever they did; disloyal asses.

Often the dream is to change careers, once you have been doing it for about 20 years. Well this is normally fine if you didn't actually spend 10 years qualifying and getting good at that job and the new job will take you another 5 to 10 years to become proficient at. So yes if the qualifying period of your current job was 2 week and was obtained by being able to wear a short skirt and have a cute smile and then yes you can change your career path often. Image you can even become a fashion designer next week. ahhh butterflies!

On the subject of work it is equally harmful to put your career ahead of your family. A job is just a method of generating an income as well as a stroke to you for your ego. Putting work first and allowing it to damage others is once again just stupid! Any company you work for truly does not give a damn and why should they you are just a cog in their profit pursuit.  

So in conclusion be cool and find Joy in you dreams, but don’t discard people in the pursuit of them. How can anything be fulfilling if it is built on the bones of shattered psyches. The other thing is loyalty, just be loyal, try it you may like it.

 Namaste