Happy Wedding Day

Here is the speech that I will be giving in for my daughters wedding.
See what you think:

Here is to the bride and groom.

My wish to you is that the love you feel today
stays with you for the rest of your lives.
The beauty you see in each other today
be visible to you always.
I hope your lives are filled Happiness and joy
 and you have passion with all you say and do.
Should squabbles ever happen,
let them be swift and your forgiveness be true.

I hope your lives together will bring you to paths
that both of you will enjoy.
and Finally I hope that you always have something to strive for
and enjoy all of your achievements both big and small.

and finally an Irish blessing:

May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life's passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!

Nameste

Reunions... really?

One of the many things in this life that I truly do not get is school reunions. Really. Reunions?

Why on earth would you want to go back to school after 30 or 40 years?

I have gone to schools on many occasions since I finished, but that is due to being a parent, and not in wanting to re-live my school days. My eldest child went to the same primary school as me and that was the closest I would ever want to go back to my school days. 

There are a few reasons for going to a   reunion and none of them are good.

·        Wanting to show that you are now a success.

·        See if the popular girls got fat

·        See if the jocks were ever educated

·        Hook up with people that you went out with as a teenager.

·        Show off the person that you hooked up with

None of these are a good enough reason as far as I can see. Anyone who was a true friend would have been a friend through life’s ups and downs.

I suppose you could attend and show that you have won, but, how sad. The only way this could be an authentic experience, is if each person had to do a true biography of the intervening years.

How overwhelming would an exercise like that be? How could anyone then actually feel superior?

The whole thing is that anyone that had lived a life full of happiness and sorrows would be a more real person, than one who had only skimmed across life’s experiences. Then the size of ones butt and wallet would not be of importance, but, rather the dimensions of one’s heart.

Having made myself even sadder about reunions, I will wish you well whether you go to your reunion or not.

Nameste’

Happy Valentine

Romance is great, but should be done on every day of the year. Great flourishes should be seen for what they are; they are all part of smoke and mirrors and in no way a thing to be hankered after.

The idea of getting anonymous Valentine is just a little stalkish. Imagine the great steps forward we could make humanity if there was a celebration of honesty. It would be far braver to invent a holiday where people needed to be open and honest with a person that they liked.

The commercialism is all good and well and part of what makes the world go round, but really, why would you love somebody because they sent you flowers. This is the same stupidity that is shown by young girls who think they love someone due to the car that they drive or what their parents own.

Lust is a totally different animal, and if this is what you are after then for Pete’s sake, send as many bunches of flowers as you can and scribble in as many cards as there are people to send them to. It is after all a numbers game and you never know when you are going to get lucky. Just don't be sad when it fizzles out like a mouthful of pop rocks.

Who knows where love comes from?
Is it biological as in knowing that your combined genetics would make interesting offspring?
Is it having matching and complementary neuroses?
Is it coming from similar socio-economic backgrounds?
Is it some sort of ego boost?
Or lastly are we destined to be with specific people and if we are very lucky we can form a family with that person and live out our lives feeling secure and loved.

The whole thing of really being with somebody is that they get to know you through and through. This is not just the advertised cool bits, but, all the other bits as well. The bits that, if you are honest with yourself, you can sometimes get embarrassed about. If you have never felt any embarrassment about who you are at your very depths, then you are either an amazing human that is seriously evolved, or you are still reading the manufacturers opinion of you. Parents tend to talk you up, don't believe them. :D

After all of that, I hope everyone has an amazing Valentines Day. May I wish you a Happy Valentine and may love cross your path.

May your heart be all a flutter.

Nameste'

Love your children

The only job you have as a parent is to love your children.

On Facebook I have been seeing stupid posters that people have liked and shared, that advocate smacking children as well as never given in to the demands of children. I believe that this is just disgusting.These parenting tips are brought to people under the guise of a religious thoughts. I suppose that these poor people have taken to religion so I suppose they have forgotten how to think for themselves or they are so badly scarred from their own traumatic upbringing that they want to perpetrate the horror.

As far as I am concerned, the only reason that children are smacked is that children are really annoying and beating them relieves some of the stress. It is disgusting to raise your hand to a child. It is not you winning as a parent but rather you failing as a human being. I think that adults who smack children are the basest bullies that walk this earth.

The other parenting tip is that you must never give in to your child’s wants. Yes it is embarrassing having a child throw a tantrum in a shop, but, how on earth could it have got that far if you were being an engaged parent and actually listening to what your child wants. I have found that if a child wants something and the item is out of your reach as a human, then a quiet conversation with your child will normally allay any tantrum and allow your child to realize that you are not just being a dick-head in not getting them what they want.

I think the saddest story that I was told about my childhood is that I only threw one tantrum in my life. I threw the wobbly and was beaten by my mother (this being the same person who fed ants as all creatures were glorious). Well as the story goes the next time I wanted to have a hissy, I threw myself down and then jumped up and shut up when I saw her. I could cry for the child that I was. How horrid to not be able to express the sheer frustration of not being able to communicate. I then didn't get to talk for quite a few years after that as my older sister did all of the talking for me.

Luckily I have got over that now and can throw the most glorious tantrums if I don’t think that I am being heard.

I think it is amazing when you are able to give a child what they want. Think of the evolution of the mind of the child, as the item given will stimulate thoughts that we as adults can never even imagine. Each generation is supposed to have a higher IQ than the previous one and the only way that is possible is to give them what they need. Parents are parents because they decided to have children and this must be the highest priority in their lives.

I think the highest honor and privilege that I have been given in my life is to be a mother. I have the most amazingly creative children in the world and this was not beaten into them.  

Namaste' glorious ones!

Happy 2014

Happy new year 2014. May we all have an amazing year.

The numbers of this year add up to seven so this could be a wildly chaotic time in which things happen in a manner that is even better that anything that we could think about.

I hope that in this year more people discover their own creativity and are able to pursue whatever it may be. I think it is a true blessing to be able to create.

As for resolutions. Don't bother making them. I feel that most people are always living the best lives that they can manage. Should you wish to try harder at the beginning of a year, that is great, but, don't expect yourself to be a totally different person this year. You are who you are that that is good enough.

Namaste'